There is this perception that women have that men cannot be trusted especially when it comes to talking to other women apart from you. One thing you need to remember is that trust plays a huge role in your relationship and without it..I’m sorry but it’s bound to fail.
It is no secret that there are some men and women that even though they are in a relationship they can’t help but talk to other people as well, sometimes on a platonic level or on a more romantic one. However there is no way of you knowing he/she is seeing other people without seeing it with your own eyes which brings me to the topic of going through your partners phone. DO. NOT. DO. IT.
The advice I always give is don’t go looking for what you don’t want to see because at the end of the day it will break you. As much as you want to be proven wrong that your partner is faithful, loyal and you’re the only one he’s talking to it is still highly likely that your assumptions would be right and you’ll see that indeed he is cheating. When you find that out not only have you given yourself a broken heart but you’ve completely broken the trust and there is no going back.
It is very tempting to snoop through someone’s phone and I can testify to that. There was a time my boyfriend stepped out of the car to grab something and there it was ..his phone left unlocked and every bone in my body told me to pick it up and go through it. And I did …I never for once thought he was cheating on me because I completely trusted that he was faithful to me. The 5 minutes I had to look through his phone was the longest most uncomfortable time of my life because I was constantly looking back to see if he was coming. I went through all the apps and found nothing incriminating …he was CLEAN.
Due to me not finding anything the whole time I was feeling guilty that I violated his privacy. I knew if I had asked him to give me his phone he would have..problem is I never asked because I didn’t have any reason to worry. Till date I always wondered what if I saw that indeed he was flirting with other girls..am I even allowed to be upset and angry with him? Because he’d ask me what’s wrong and I’d have to confess I went through his phone which is obviously a wrong thing to do.
I would advice every man and woman in a relationship especially one as serious as a marriage..is don’t throw away the trust you have for each other for something meaningless. If indeed your partner is being unfaithful and hiding something from you, I promise you the truth will come out..it always does. Eventually.