The worst lie you could believe or tell yourself is that you can change a man. However a man will change if he wants to..it might be because of you or it might be because of something else but he has to do it on his own.
Men try to avoid those women whose sole purpose is to change them. Of course there are some men that find these women attractive but aside from that they don’t want someone to come in and change up everything. Women who try to change their men usually claim they love everything about them then little by little start changing the things they don’t like that aren’t really noticeable. From changing the kind of music he listens to then moving on to the kind of clothes he wears. I’m guilty of trying to change my ex into my ideal guy..by dictating how I wanted him to dress.
Men are usually oblivious so they won’t even notice what you’re trying to do but the moment you try to change his hobbies or the friends he hangs out with then my dear you’re in for it! He will obviously notice and think you’re not satisfied with who he is as a person. There’s nothing more heartbreaking than your significant other implying there are some areas they’re not happy with and would want you to change. My ex complained about how I was too bubbly and social, he was more of the quiet guy who kept to himself. I was afraid I would lose him so I began to decrease my presence on social media by posting less and tweeting less. The moment I knew we wouldn’t work out was when he told me he didn’t want me interacting with a certain friend of mine that I had known for 8 years! Don’t get me wrong I knew this girl had her negative qualities and flaws but she was always here for me and had amazing qualities of being a good friend. My ex would suggest other people he’d rather see me hang around with and in that moment I realised he wasn’t happy with all of me. Perhaps the relationship was bound to end because that was my deal breaker.
Nobody is perfect and because of that you can’t expect to find a man with 0 flaws or without one thing about him annoying you. If it’s a habit that you can’t seem to let yourself ignore then you need to talk to him and let him know where you stand. I promise you that if he loves you enough he would try everything in his power to change just so he can keep you because he’d rather let go of that habit than to lose you..someone he really cares about and wants to spend the rest of his life with.
Don’t forget the famous saying that goes..
“A woman cannot change a man because she loves him, a man changes himself because he loves her