Only God knows how many pregnancy strips i have peed on. How many nights i have cried, how many naming ceremonies i had to excused my self from. OH GOD infertility is a painful test, i keep saying, its a test for only the brave.
Every day you wake up you are reminded of this little imperfection. and don’t get me started with fertility treatment nightmare!!! the needles, the drugs, the invasive scanning, my Dr has spent more time looking up my uterus than my actual face, legit! chai man has suffered!
After 8 years of infertility hustle we decided to take a break. And just like that ALLAH gave me a son, He dashed me one! just like that wo!!!! no pregnancy no nothing, your girl became a mother via adoption!
The first time i held my baby, oh my, i can not describe the feeling! i had this blanket i had gotten years back from London, i quickly warped him in it!
Ever since then, i have been an advocate for adoption. my son has filled a void in my being walahi i cannot explain. i could be having a terrible day and this little kid would smile at me, and every thing would just varnish. And the first day he said Mama!!!!!! oh my GOD i cried!
Enough about me!
So a few weeks ago i saw Hafsat, with a baby, i know she has been TTC (trying to conceive) for a while. This baby looked like her, but i kept saying to my self, i have seen her a few months ago and she wasn’t pregnant. ina ta sake sake in my mind! and she said ,Aisha, meet fatima zahra, we adopted her!
OMG i almost jumped!
Are you kidding me, Hafsat? OMG OMG OMG OMG
Tell me all about it Hafsat!
How did you get her, where, what agency, i kept bombarding her with questions.
OMG i have to do an exclusive for you guys! i have to share this beautiful story! I called my good friend George okoro and we fixed a day for the shoot.
#see how beautiful they are, i could die!!!! masha ALLAH #beautiful people with beautiful souls
So sit back relax and read their beautiful story!!!
This May, we would be celebrating our 6th year anniversary. Aminu and i met in Secondary a few odd years ago and we’ve been in love ever since, He is my best friend and GOD knows i wouldn’t have been able to go through infertility with any body else!
we started getting worried 2 years after our marriage, we went to the hospital and our Diagnosis was unexplained infertility!
So we weren’t worried as such and we kept praying!
But Aminu loves kids, and it broke my heart some times when i see how happy he is around them!
We made a pact, if by our 5th anniversary we don’t get pregnant, we will adopt. We told our Family and to our greatest surprise no body opposed it.
we started processing but the queue was massive, i became a bit depressed, i wanted a baby so bad. so we tried Kaduna.
we went to some orphanages and i fell in love with a baby, this baby i think was 3 months.
But they said the baby wasn’t eligible for adoption, my heart broke!
I cried. and prayed,
we were about to leave Kaduna, my Mum made a few calls and heard that some babies where picked up a few days ago in the fields. subhanallah!
With perseverance, we were able to get one of the babies! WE GOT ZAHRA.
when i first saw her i wept! and when they allowed me take her i was like what!!!! are they allowing me take her?
We became instant parents!!! quickly came back and built a nursery, got clothing and toys!
i really wanted to bond with her so we decided to breast feed! so i had to move home for my mom to teach me stuff.
How to take care of the baby, how to feed the baby da sauran su.
IIs been 5 months but its been the most amazing 5 months of my life!
Every thing is different! she is a blessing to our lives!
i want to use this medium to talk to couples going through infertility in the North, adoption should be part of your options. ALhamdulliah our cups are full!
which of ALLAH’s blessings can i deny?
Hafsat and Aminu are both fashion designers and are all wearing their designs
Hafsat in @thecicada
Aminu in @manbyrobanne
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